I worked in a stressful environment: on the one hand, I had my standard daily work. And on the other hand, I had to react immediately to the demands of the day. I rested on weekends, yet I still woke up tired every workday. Mentally, I deteriorated so rapidly that immediately after meetings, I no longer remembered what we had just discussed.
I had to go to the physiotherapist regularly because my lower back was stiff every time. A direct result of the stress I wasn’t aware of.
One day, my system gave up. I had to call in sick. It was time for a change.
That is when I learned to turn off the ‘ON’ button so that I could relax again.
I learned effective techniques to relax. (And discovered that long-hold stretching is a great starting point because it activates the ‘rest & digest nervous system’, it stimulates blood flow and it forces you to focus on your body and your breathing instead of worrying.)
I learned the techniques to approach situations (that I previously experienced as energy-draining) in a calm way.
“What a relief it is to let go of the constant pressure.”
Now that I have let go of stress, I enjoy the connection with the people around me again, the city where I live, a cappuccino on a terrace, and exercising. I no longer have to look for ‘it’ elsewhere, because I enjoy the here and now.
Do not expect compassion from me, because with my autistic traits, that is too big a task. Do expect me to listen intently and hear every nuance in what you say and how you say it. And above all, expect to laugh, because my clients tell me that I coach with humor. We won’t dive into your feelings, but we will dive into a learning process to better manage those feelings and your thoughts, so that you feel relaxed and focused despite the stressful environment.
When you get to know me better, you know:
I followed my dream and live in Italy, in Reggio Emilia to be precise. The small apartment is located on the edge of the old, charming center. I can walk to the city’s central square in 10 minutes;
I love Italy and followed the dream I had for over 20 years to go and live there. Nowadays, I live in Northern Italy, in Reggio Emilia to be precise.
Invariably, I head out the door in the morning to have breakfast. I always have a good cappuccino and a croissant for breakfast.
I love learning new things and taking courses and training programs, which has resulted in me having a mountain of certificates, allowing me to call myself, for example, a certified stretch coach and breath coach.
I love swimming and slowly building up my fitness. Swimming is very popular in Italy, so the lanes are often crowded;
My favorite piece of wisdom is: “I am not the wave, I am the ocean.”
I am the 4th in a family of 5. Single. The oldest is 10 years older than me. The youngest is 4 years younger. And together they have 7 children and 6 grandchildren;
My favorite mode of transport is the train. I love watching the meadows, farms, hills, and cities pass by while I listen to a book.
My guilty pleasure is watching Judge Judy videos. Wonderful. The clarity of clear rules. I enjoy it.
Ron for men. 